“Trust your instincts”: Abbie shares her cancer journey to raise life-saving awareness

21st January 2026

We are honoured to share the story of Abbie, one of our dedicated and much-loved Abbie Tutchings.jpegparamedics. At just 26, Abbie was diagnosed with primary breast cancer. Today, she is living with a secondary, incurable diagnosis, and showing extraordinary strength, honesty, and hope. 

Abbie’s journey is a powerful reminder that cancer can affect anyone, at any age. Early action matters. Awareness matters. You matter. 

By sharing her experience in her own words, Abbie hopes to empower others to recognise signs and symptoms early, check themselves regularly, and speak up until they feel heard. 

 

Abbie’s story — in her own words 

“I’ve wanted to be a paramedic since I was seven.” 

My name is Abbie, and for as long as I can remember, being a paramedic has always been my dream. It began when a close relative suffered a stroke. I watched the ambulance crew move with such calm skill and compassion that even at seven years old I thought, “That’s what I want to do one day.”

My parents used to let me stay up late on Saturday nights to watch Casualty, and that only fuelled my determination. Every step I’ve taken in life has been shaped by that childhood ambition. I’ve now been a qualified paramedic for nine years, and I still absolutely love my job. No two days are the same. You have to think fast, adapt quickly, and support people during their most vulnerable moments. 

There is nothing more meaningful than giving someone a fighting chance or bringing a new life into the world. Supporting students and watching them grow into confident paramedics is equally rewarding. It’s a privilege I don’t take lightly. 

I never imagined I would become the patient. 

“Before my diagnosis, cancer was just a word.” 

Before my own experience, cancer was something I encountered professionally but had no personal connection to. With no family history, I never thought it would happen to me. 

Around nine months before my diagnosis, I noticed enlarged lymph nodes in my neck. I contacted my GP and, due to limited face-to-face appointments during the pandemic, I was reassured it was likely viral. The swelling went down, and I didn’t think about it again. 

Several months later, I found a lump beneath my right breast, about the size of a golf ball. I remember feeling shocked that I hadn’t noticed it sooner. I had also lost three stone while dieting, so I didn’t recognise weight loss as a red flag either. 

Even as a paramedic, I thought, “This doesn’t happen to someone my age.”

But age isn’t protection, and dismissing symptoms doesn’t make them go away. 

“I didn’t want to know - because knowing made it real.” 

When the receptionist booked me in quickly, it struck me how seriously they were taking it. Deep down, a part of me feared I already knew what it was. I felt that if I didn’t get it checked, there was still room for doubt… for hope. 

But denial is dangerous. From the moment of my appointment, my life has never been the same. 

My world shattered in an instant. I went from being the healthcare professional to the person needing help. That shift was profoundly unsettling. I had never truly been a patient before. 

Balancing both identities, paramedic and patient, is still something I struggle to navigate every day. 

“Work gave me purpose when everything else felt uncertain.” 

I couldn’t face the idea of staying at home with nothing to focus on while I went through treatment, so I asked NEAS if there were alternative duties I could take on. 

There was never any pressure for me to do this, it was my decision. I was welcomed into the research team, and their support was incredible. That period gave me purpose, connection, and opportunities I’ll never forget. 

When treatment ended, I pushed myself to return to frontline duties as quickly as possible. I missed being on the road, I missed the job, and I missed feeling like me. But the long-term side effects, pain, fatigue, anxiety, fear of recurrence, were overwhelming. 

Eventually, I transitioned to a rapid response ambulance, which helped me manage the physical demands better. 

I also started mental health therapy, which became a turning point. It helped me process everything I’d been through, rebuild my confidence, and rediscover happiness. 

“On difficult days, I lean on the people who lift me up.” 

I’m incredibly lucky to have a strong support network, my incredible family, friends, colleagues, and management team. They have shown me kindness, patience, and unwavering support. 

Keeping busy and prioritising self-care helps me stay grounded. It stops me from spiralling into overthinking and allows me to stay present, even when things feel heavy. 

Awareness & self-examination: my message to you 

Check your breast and chest areas at least once a month. It doesn’t matter your age, gender, or background, cancer doesn’t discriminate. 

If you notice something unusual, please get checked. Clinicians see breasts every day, it’s just part of their job. If it makes you more comfortable, ask for a chaperone.

Do whatever you need to feel safe and supported. 

Quick monthly self-check: 

1.   Look in the mirror

Arms down and raised. Check shape, size, symmetry, skin changes, nipple changes.

2.   Feel standing or in the shower

Three middle fingers, small circles, all around the breast, chest wall, and armpit.

3.   Feel lying down

Use three levels of pressure, light, medium, deep.

4.   Watch for changes

Lump, thickening, persistent pain, warmth, dimpling, nipple changes.

Please visit this page for more information https://breastcancernow.org/about-breast-cancer/awareness/signs-and-symptoms-of-breast-cancer

5.   If something feels different, book your GP.

You’re not wasting anyone’s time.

You know your body better than anyone. Trust your instincts. 

“If you’re putting off getting checked, I’ve been there.” 

It’s scary. I understand that fear of the appointment, of the results, of your life changing. 

But modern medicine is advancing all the time. There are so many treatment options that people don’t realise exist. Early action gives choices. Early action gives time.

Early action saves lives. 

“Cancer changed my priorities and my perspective.” 

It’s so easy to get stuck on the treadmill of life, saying you’ll do things “one day.” 

Cancer made me realise how precious time is. If something isn’t serving you, change it. If you want to go somewhere, book it. If you have a dream, chase it now. 

Be your own best friend. Love yourself fiercely. Dance and sing around the house to your favourite songs. Take the drive. Explore the world. Experience things on your own. Don’t feel guilty for stepping back from relationships that drain you. 

Make a bucket list and start ticking it off. 

“I’m sharing my story because people often assume that once treatment ends, you’re ‘fine’.” 

The reality is that when the hospital appointments stop, the mental battle often begins. You look “better,” but inside, you’re still carrying the trauma, the fear, the physical impacts. 

Unless you’ve been through it, it’s impossible to fully understand. 

I want people to know that healing is not linear. It’s not quick. And it’s not always visible. 

“Please look after yourself. You deserve it.” 

We all say we’re too busy, to cook properly, to exercise, to see loved ones, to go to the doctor. I’ve been guilty of this too. 

But your health is the foundation for everything else. 

Stop worrying about bothering someone. Stop worrying about wasting time. 

You are worth the appointment.

How you can support someone with cancer 

  • Listen without judgement 
  • Don’t disappear—show up 
  • Offer distractions and comfort 
  • Don’t make them feel guilty for struggling 
  • Believe what they tell you 
  • Be consistent, kind, and patient Support doesn’t have to be grand. It just has to be real. 

A message to healthcare workers 

Please never make someone feel like a waste of time. We come to you because we’re scared and we need help. 

Listen fully. Believe your patients. Don’t dismiss concerns. 

Make them feel valued, seen, and safe. 

You have the power to change someone’s entire experience with a single interaction. 

“If my story helps one person get checked sooner, it’s worth sharing.” 

Your health is never something to put off. 

Your concerns are never a burden. 

Your body deserves your attention. 

Please trust your instincts.